01-29-2004, 10:08 PM
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Originally Posted by DimensionZero
The hardware suggestion that was made is pretty good, but there's one problem, and that's if she gets smart enough to change her IP address, then the rules wouldn't apply anymore... Kids are getting tech savy REALLY quick these days... I was helping manage the school network when I was in grade 9 =)
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On the router you can filter by IP address. If she were to change the IP address, she wouldn't be able to get anywhere...
Steve
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01-31-2004, 02:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Brad Adrian
I'm not an expert on controlling that kind of access -- in fact I'm interested in what suggestions are made, because I have teenagers, too. Another thing you might want to consider is a tool that provides archiving of all instant messages, like Messenger Plus. I trust my kids, too, but letting them know that I can always scan their archived IMs for inappropriate language helps keep them clean. I've never actually read the archives, but they know I can.
Okay, all of you who feel this is an invasion of their privacy, pile on now...
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No offence but I'm glad you're not my Dad. I think that is a huge invasion of privacy. |
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01-31-2004, 02:17 AM
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Originally Posted by PetiteFlower
If she can be a straight a student and such a great smart kid even occasionally staying up late chatting, I'd say let her use her judgement, at 16  If she does it too often she'll feel the effects, like I mentioned before. But it's not my kid and you certainly have the right to set limits, 16 is still a kid after all(though she'd disagree I'm sure!) My mom used the "I trust your judgement" line with me after I got to be that age and most of the time, I made the right decisions.....and when I didn't, I paid the consequences! Experience is the best teacher, so they say |
I'd say this is the best option for you. Your daughter will learn how to be responsible and she will not feel like you are taking away her freedom. It's the best of both worlds. |
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01-31-2004, 04:51 AM
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Originally Posted by dean_shan
No offence but I'm glad you're not my Dad. I think that is a huge invasion of privacy.
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Yes... But to some extent, that's what parents have to do. I'm not sure what I would do as a parent, as I don't have kids. When *I* was that age, I certainly would have resented it. But now that I'm older... It doesn't sound quite so bad. |
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01-31-2004, 03:40 PM
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Well, I have yet to find a good "Workable" solution, although many great suggestions have been posted here.
So far, and in the recent past, I have used the option of letting her use her own "good Judgement", however, all that does is create a cranky 16 year old daughter in the mornings!!!! Something her mom really does not appreciate. And trust me, if any of you are around a "cranky 16 year old" you know what I mean!!
I'm starting to lean toward the idea of a router that will let me do a little programming of what I want.
As for the comments about invasion of privacy, trust me, when your kids get to be the age of my daughter, and are exposed to the things on the internet and in the real world, that she is exposed to on a daily basis, a little "invasion" goes a long way!!
Luckily, she tells us all the crazy things the kids do these days, and even the things she is offered and presented with. Imagine having to tell your own daughter to never take even a soft drink from somebody at a party, for fear of what may have been placed in it!
She thinks she is going to have to drink from unopened cans for the rest of her life!!!
Oh well, at least she will be able to grow up and live life to its fullest, even if I am going to have her point fingers at me and roll her eyes for the next couple of years.
Jerry
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01-31-2004, 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by js415
Luckily, she tells us all the crazy things the kids do these days, and even the things she is offered and presented with.
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I think it's great that she has open and honest channels of communication with you and your wife. :way to go: As long as she's aware of what you guys reserve the right to do, I think there's nothing wrong with controlling her access. I know it's addictive, even for me. 
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01-31-2004, 11:23 PM
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01-31-2004, 11:51 PM
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Well, that is closer to anything I have seen that does what I want, except with this, I still would have to walk upstairs every night at 9:00PM, and pull the plug to shut her down. Then go back when she gets home from school to do her studies, and repeat the cycle every night til the weekend comes.
Too much starting and stopping required on my part to use this. I am basically getting this done right now with my patch cords and hub.
I have never written any computer program in my life, but have used some real fancy and expensive ones, and for the life of me, it seems like this would be an easy thing for a good programmer to write. And it seems that this would be a tool that any parent would love to have and would gladly pay for.
On the other hand, maybe I'm the only one who needs this, and maybe it's not that easy to write a program!!!
Still searching for something that I bet she will figure out a way to beat if she wanted to :mrgreen:
Jerry
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