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Jason Dunn
05-29-2003, 05:34 PM
I read this story and found it quite touching - cynics need not read any further.

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A teacher in New York decided to honour each of her seniors in high school by telling them the difference they each made. She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time. First she told each of them how they had made a difference to her and the class. Then she presented each of them with a blue ribbon imprinted with gold letters, which read, "Who I Am Makes a Difference.

Afterwards the teacher decided to do a class project to see what kind of impact recognition would have on a community. She gave each of the students three more ribbons and instructed them to go out and
spread this acknowledgment ceremony. Then they were to follow up on the results,see who honoured whom and report back to the class in about a week.

One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby company and honoured him for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt. Then he gave him two extra ribbons and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition, and we'd like you to go out, find somebody to honour, give them a blue ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a third person to keep this acknowledgment ceremony going. Then please report back to me and tell me what happened."

Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss,who had been noted, by the way, as being kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his boss down and he told him that he deeply admired him for being a creative genius. The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, "Well, sure." The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right on his boss's jacket above his heart. As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, "Would you do me a favour? Would you take this extra ribbon and pass it on by honouring somebody else? The young boy who first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school and we want to keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it affects people."

That night the boss came home to his 14-year-old son and sat him down. He said, "The most incredible thing happened to me today.I was in my office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine. He thinks I'm a creative genius. Then he put this blue ribbon that says 'Who I Am Makes A Difference'" on my jacket above my heart. He gave me an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honour. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honour with this ribbon and I thought about you. I want to honour you. My days are really hectic and when I come home I don't pay a lot of attention to you.Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school and for your bedroom being a mess, but somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life. You're a great kid and I love you!"

The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn't stop crying. His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his tears, "Dad, earlier tonight I sat in my room and wrote a letter to you and Mom explaining why I had killed myself and asking you to forgive me. I was going to commit suicide tonight after you were asleep. I just didn't think that you cared at all. The letter is upstairs. I don't think I need it after all." His father walked upstairs, and found a heartfelt letter full of anguish and pain.

The envelope was addressed, "Mom and Dad". The boss went back to work a changed man. He was no longer a grouch but made sure to let all his employees know that they made a difference. The junior executive helped several other young people with career planning an never forgot to let them know that they made a difference in his life ... one being the boss's son. And the young boy and his classmates learned a valuable lesson.

Who you are DOES make a difference.

Noel
05-29-2003, 05:43 PM
Jason - if that is a true story, then so are the tears that welled up in my eyes!
Inspiring!

Thank you.


Noel

Jeff Rutledge
05-29-2003, 06:29 PM
Very nice story. I know that some read these with cynicism and disbelief, but they miss the point. Whether or not this story is true doesn't matter. The point it makes is all that matters. And FWIW, I think it probably is true, at least the important parts. It's probably been cleaned up a couple times in it's telling, but I would not be surprised at all to find out it's really happened.

Thanks for lifting my day a little and for the reminder of what is important in life.

Cheers!

lurch
05-29-2003, 06:34 PM
I saw this story a while ago, but I see it's already changed since I saw it... when it came to me it was quite different, nobody was worried about honouring anybody, they were concerned with honoring people. :lol:

Ed Hansberry
05-29-2003, 06:38 PM
Thanks Jason!

Ekkie Tepsupornchai
05-29-2003, 06:45 PM
Great story! Thanks!

Janak Parekh
05-29-2003, 08:28 PM
Indeed, it's a great story. Even if it's an urban legend (which the cynic believes in me it is ;)), it drives home a very important point: remember to compliment and tell people how much you appreciate them. I go out of my way to outright compliment people I work with on the nice work they do. It's amazing what an effect it has.

--janak

ghostppc
05-29-2003, 08:46 PM
Jason's just special. :D

Yes Jason can be VERY special :) I thought it was going to turn out a little different though. When the dad passed the ribbon on to his son, I thought the kid was going to be like "that's my class project! you don't pay attention to anything I do dad!" LOL, just a piece of my dysfunctionality :lol:

Ekkie Tepsupornchai
05-29-2003, 08:53 PM
Indeed, it's a great story. Even if it's an urban legend (which the cynic believes in me it is ;)), it drives home a very important point: remember to compliment and tell people how much you appreciate them. I go out of my way to outright compliment people I work with on the nice work they do. It's amazing what an effect it has.
Janak, I love the way you use smilies!! Oh... and your admin posting ain't bad either! :D

Pony99CA
05-29-2003, 10:17 PM
That sounds like one of those stories that gets circulated on AOL. I think there was also one about a boy who got help from a man, and the boy later ended up being a doctor who saved the old man's life.

Nonetheless, it was a nice story (although I had expected the boss to end up giving the ribbon back to the teacher, who was also his teacher in school).

Steve

Janak Parekh
05-29-2003, 10:20 PM
Jason's just special. :D
Yes Jason can be VERY special :)
Did you just quote me from another thread? :)

Janak, I love the way you use smilies!! Oh... and your admin posting ain't bad either!
Thanks, I think? :lol: I haven't changed my smiley behavior, or so I think, so why the sudden notice?

--janak

JonnoB
05-29-2003, 10:44 PM
This reminds me of a commercial I saw recently where a man gives up a cab while standing in the rain to a woman and her child or another where a young man picks up a dollar and hands it to a man who dropped it.

Kindness and compassion can be contagious if you just take the time to do it yourself. If nothing dramatic becomes of your kind actions immediately, it is ok as the behaviour itself makes your own day brighter.

Now, I think I will go out and help some elderly seniors across the street somewhere.

Jacob
05-29-2003, 11:11 PM
Very nice story. I know that some read these with cynicism and disbelief, but they miss the point. Whether or not this story is true doesn't matter. The point it makes is all that matters.

I agree that the truth or lack thereof of the story isn't what's important about it - I personally find at least some parts of the story very hard to believe for reasons I won't get into, but the point is clear.

Mark Kenepp
05-29-2003, 11:54 PM
...I thought it was going to turn out a little different though. When the dad passed the ribbon on to his son, I thought the kid was going to be like "that's my class project! you don't pay attention to anything I do dad!" LOL, just a piece of my dysfunctionality :lol:

My thoughts exactly 8) I even think it would have made a better story.

Doesn't anyone else here still see a problem?

I just can't help think that the kid is suicidal and nothing in the story tells me that a ribbon is going to fix that :puppydogeyes:

Ekkie Tepsupornchai
05-29-2003, 11:58 PM
I just can't help think that the kid is suicidal and nothing in the story tells me that a ribbon is going to fix that :puppydogeyes:
Oh come now! It's not the ribbon, bud! It's the message from the father to the son!

Right?

Jacob
05-30-2003, 12:13 AM
I just can't help think that the kid is suicidal and nothing in the story tells me that a ribbon is going to fix that :puppydogeyes:
Oh come now! It's not the ribbon, bud! It's the message from the father to the son!

Right?

That's one of the reasons I find it hard to believe - people who are truly suicidal don't just perk up and think "Life's just great!!" at one sign of affection. It does help and may prevent someone from killing himself for a day or so, but it's unlikely to be that big of a transformation.

I think it's just used as a storytelling effect to make the effect of the act more obvious and dramatic.

Jason Dunn
05-30-2003, 12:14 AM
Doesn't anyone else here still see a problem? I just can't help think that the kid is suicidal and nothing in the story tells me that a ribbon is going to fix that :puppydogeyes:

Why did you even read the story? You should have stopped when I said "Cynics needs not read further". Can't anyone read anything without thinking they NEED to rip into it? :|

Kati Compton
05-30-2003, 12:18 AM
That's one of the reasons I find it hard to believe - people who are truly suicidal don't just perk up and think "Life's just great!!" at one sign of affection. It does help and may prevent someone from killing himself for a day or so, but it's unlikely to be that big of a transformation.
I don't know about suicidal, but in depression huge mood swings are very common.

ghostppc
05-30-2003, 04:21 AM
Can't anyone read anything without thinking they NEED to rip into it? :|

Sorry Jason, we didn't mean to hijack your thread. I think for the most part we all got the meaning of the story that the things you do in life make a difference. But sometimes it's funny just the same :wink:

And yes Janak, I did quote you from another thread that I saw at the same time. LOL!

Jacob
05-30-2003, 07:19 AM
That's one of the reasons I find it hard to believe - people who are truly suicidal don't just perk up and think "Life's just great!!" at one sign of affection. It does help and may prevent someone from killing himself for a day or so, but it's unlikely to be that big of a transformation.
I don't know about suicidal, but in depression huge mood swings are very common.

I agree that it would help...of course just about every case of depression is different.

No need to get into a huge discussion about psychology and all - better to leave the point of the story without over-analysis.

Jimmy Dodd
05-30-2003, 08:30 PM
OK, time for a group hug...